In this episode, I talk about one of the hardest things survivors might face after leaving an abusive/narcissistic relationship: having to co-parent with their abuser.
Leaving doesn’t make the abuser disappear. And when children are involved, the relationship often continues in painful and complicated ways for years. Using a very recent personal story, I’ll explore how kids often notice far more than adults realize, and how difficult it can be to support them without projecting your own hurt and history onto their experience.
I also share two of the biggest lessons I’ve learned so far from navigating co-parenting with a narcissist: let your children lead conversations about their own experiences, and get absolutely everything in writing. We talk about why documentation matters so much when dealing with someone who rewrites reality, avoids accountability, and thrives on confusion. This episode is part personal reflection, part practical guidance, and an invitation for other survivors to share what they’ve learned from this exhausting but very common experience.
